Abstract

This review is intended to summarize and introduce the main contents of the book 'All you need is love and other lies about marriage: How to save your marriage before it's too late'. It was written by psychiatrist Jacobs who has been counselling couples in New York for about 30 years. He has practiced not only psychoanalytic intervention but also family system approaches as main inteventions. He regarded drastic life extension, changes in marriage attitude(from survival to love and happiness), women's new social and economic power, materialism/too fast and much information on modern society and destigmatized divorce as undermining long-term stability of marriages. He has selected 7 incorrect beliefs about marriage, which will hold couples together and contribute to their unhappiness over and over, suggesting their psychosocioeconomic meaning and various coping skills. Seven lies about marriage are as follows; excessive emphasis on love, communication problem, difficulty of change, family's legacy, egalitarian marriage, children solidifying a marriage and the sexual revolution of the modern couple. It is expected to provide useful therapeutic implications for clinical psychologists, marriage counsellors and the general public by its enriched resources and contents.